Good Hair? Let me say first, I am not anti-straight hair, and that I enjoyed the movie. I did laugh. Up until a certain point. You see, at some point it is not at all funny to hear a woman (of any color) say that they feel they must spend exorbitant amounts of money (often money they cannot afford, sometimes money that would be better spent in other ways... perhaps on getting some ethnicity related therapy of some sort...) to use dangerous chemicals to straighten their hair, or attach someone else's hair (usually much longer and of a genetically incompatible texture) to their heads, because they think it will make people feel more comfortable around them.... in other words, naturally kinky, nappy, curly, frizzy hair is somehow socially discomforting to the general public. I don't find it at all entertaining to hear women talk about how they are willing to burn holes in their scalp for the quest for straight hair because straight hair is accepted by the general public as more beautiful.
I have a 27 year old friend who wears wigs... that make her look like she's got some serious issues. She hates her real hair, thinks it's ugly, because she does not know what to do with her hair and hasn't taken the time to figure it out. 27 years old... wearing wigs.
I'm not concerned about whether or not anyone finds my hair to be unfamiliar, strange, unruly, wild, anti-conservative. I think my hair makes that perfectly clear. But this kind of self expression is a whole other subject that perhaps I'll touch on at another time.
I want to state my position regarding self mutilation, economic self-oppression, and the act of surrendering to a centuries old degradation of who I am as a woman, and further as a black woman, and I have several points that I want to make in that vein.
When did we decide to adopt this as our own self-imposed image, that we might pursue, as one of our most invested endeavors, to change what we look like to change the minds of those who created that image?
2. NEWSFLASH: Black girls with nappy hair have jobs. High ranking executive type jobs. Jobs as scientists, astronauts, doctors, lawyers, Ivy League university professors, philosophers, politicians. Some of the most influential black women in the history of the world were black women with nappy hair! Those of you worried about catching a man, black girls with nappy hair have romance, marriage, companionship, and I'm here to tell you we enjoy phenomenal sexual experiences just like our straight haired sisters... and in the cases of those who are still oppressed, I argue perhaps better because there's one less thing to be self conscious about when we're in that naked, vulnerable state! Our lovers can put their fingers in our hair, massage our scalps, grab a fist full in the throws of passion... You get the idea... Black girls with nappy hair have friends of all colors, races, cultures, and creeds. We are not all angry (though just like anyone else, we can be angered...), we are not all militant, and whatever we are, whoever we are, you canNOT assertain based on the texture of our hair. (As you read this you might think I'm talking to white people here. I might be talking to some, but I'm more talking to those of my sisters who are inflicting this oppression upon themselves by defending against this false stigma.)
In 1992 I cut off all my hair when I began training at the world renowned Vidal Sassoon Academy as a haircutter and stylist.... a UK based company with 4 academies at the time, worldwide... the most respected place to train in the profession. They were not your average beauty school. They had philosophies and standards above and beyond state safety and hygiene regulations and basic skill acquisition. They had doctrine about what beauty was. Beauty was a combination of inner qualities and the synergy between all of your outer traits. In other words, each of us is made up of an architecture of physical traits that work together to make us beautiful in our own unique and natural balance. They believed that if you had curly hair the ideal look for you would incorporate those curls, not torture them into mutation. They believed that beauty was a matter of authenticity therefore if you're Chinese, don't try to look like an African, and if you're an African don't try to look like you're Chinese.
This is not about men. This is about how we feel about ourselves. It is about a loss of rejoicing in the God-given beauty and magnificence that is WOMANKIND! Your beauty and desirability is NOT about those things you can change about your outside. I know it sounds cliche, but it's the truth.
I have been sporting my naturally curly/kinky, frizzy hair since 1992!!! It's like having an anvil removed from around my neck after years of being a slave to the hot pressing comb and a junkie for the creamy crack (permanent relaxer). That's not to say that I will never straighten my hair again. It's to say what people think of me, how my hair makes them feel about me is of absolutely no consequence at all. I am free. 100% free when it comes to my hair. We should all be free like this! Hell! Save the money for something extravagant like say.... organic groceries, an eco-friendly vehicle, and hey! Perhaps some THERAPY! I'm telling you, our priorities are way out of whack!
This is not about what I think of you. This is about how you feel about yourself!!!
If you have searched your soul, and you're sick of being in those straightening comb, $1000+ weave, ammonium thioglycollate shackles, and you feel trapped into something that's costing you in more ways than you want it to, but you don't know what to do with your natural hair, there are fantastic resources out there now. God Bless the Internet! Here are some of the sites I find useful for my own hair: